Thinking back on the people who inspire me, I had to stop and reflect on the people who helped me the most, the people to whom I am grateful. I made a short list of the things they did for me that I appreciated and admired and there are quite a few people on this list. I thought I’m already almost 30 and I’ve had the blessed opportunity to have so many contributors in my life…this can’t go unnoticed. So I decided to create a Kindness Tree with all the people who have shown me kindness in a significant way. I thought this should be printed and framed and put in a special place as a reminder of how many people laid a foundation in me through kindness…and how much it took for me to realise it. 😀
All these people have morally and materially supported me one way or another without speaking or showing judgement. I bet they had plenty of opportunities to judge me, but they restrained from showing it. That was so kind of them. Reflecting on this, on why I admire them, on what I appreciated the most, I realised what it actually was that is an inspiration to me:
The ability to see someone as they could be, as their best version, and treating them as if they are already there.
Whether they intended to do this or not, this is how I see it now. And this is an item I could improve on myself. My discernment usually leads me to see the worst version of a person and expect the worst from them, so I keep my kindness to myself so I don’t “waste it”.
On a different tree I’ll have to place boxes with the names of all the parents of my students who trusted me, believed in my abilities and invested in my development as a teacher. Now how awesome is this? How many teachers in Romania can say this about parents?
I’m inserting a version of my Kindness Tree without the names fo the people, just as an example. The pink boxes are family/mentors and the blue boxes are the best friends – the ones that are still the best even if you haven’t seen them or spoken to them in years…we’re still there. And I’ll keep adding boxes in the tree.