This truly has been a transforming week. You know how some people are rude, some are simply annoying and some are just so ignorant of anyone surrounding them? And when you get tired of dealing with these sort of people, you think…why bother? And in the past couple of years I set up camp in “Why-BotherLand”.
A revolutionary thing happened while trying my best to truly show kindness.
At first, I would find myself in situations where I’d ask myself: how can I show kindness now?…what about now? And so on. It’s like my mind is now set on it, which is great, but weird. When kindness stops being natural, you’ve crossed a troubling step. I can just imagine that so many people live this way. The mentality is “if I’m not hurting you, that’s an act of kindness”. And it can be, but that shouldn’t be the only way we show kindness.
I’m at the mall. Some girl trying to read the label on a shampoo knocks down 10 other shampoos. That happens :). I hear: be kind. (Yes, if you sign up for the Kindness Challenge, the ghost of future kindness follows you everywhere and keeps whispering in your ear 😉 ) I get down and help her pick up the shampoos. I’m on the bus, pretty tired, I see a kid and his mom, I hear: be kind. I get up and give him the seat. All week long.
But the greatest thing I discovered is that the first opportunity to be kind is in your mind. So much frustration builds up just by looking around and judging people. If you just let go of the fact that the sales person is so slow today, could she go any slower…oh, no, now the shopper in front of me can’t decide on what item to buy…I’m gonna die here!!! Let go, be kind, nothing good can come from allowing toxic thoughts and even worse…nothing changes just because you’re getting angry. I’ve tried it. Nothing changes. Just you. You become bitter and no one will want to be around you.
I am excited about this journey. This might turn me into a better person…just when I thought I can’t get any better… Niki is probably thinking right about now: “Next year we’ll do a Modesty Challenge for Ioana”.